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I just got married to my husband. before we got married he was always telling me how I don't give enough of myself to him. the way he sees it (if i love him I will do stuff for him) and as a girl I think if he loves me he'l show it in effection and lots of attention. Him and I have already established we need different things from each other. well, I've accepted it I've done so much for him I constantly am trying to think of ways to make him happy and it's never enough he always has a reason why what i did is wrong I didn't do it right I payed 5000 for (something that will not be mentioned) for him because he said he'd do anything for me. if i did and he'd pay me back and all our past issues would b put behind us and blablabla. well I've done alot more than that for him and I know he seems like he's using me. but that's just his personality (hard to please). I can accept that but I need somthing to work with and him buying me things does not make me happy those r material things. to him that's everytihing to me it's nothing. alls I want is for him to be sweet and effectionate and never take me for granted not even for a second. anyway I'm trying to make him appreciate me what should I do and say? we bn together 4 years and have a daughter. the last thing i want is mind games but he uses them on me so how can I reverse this and make him realize hes beind a D**K?